People often ask me why I’m keeping our wedding a secret.

Do our families not approve? Is it that we are embarrassed? Do we have something to hide?

The answer is none of the above.

I want to have a private wedding because that is what I want. I don’t want to have everyone we know and lots of people we don’t there. I don’t want to stand up in front of people and have to say all that stuff.

I love my family and my friends but this day is going to be something special to me and it is going to be what I want.

My colleague at work was telling me about her wedding day. She wanted to get married in a blue wedding dress, but her husband-to-be didn’t want her to, and her mother flatly refused. She wanted to have carnations in her bouquet, but the flower people got it wrong and she couldn’t really argue about it.

She did not get the day she wanted, and although special, she is always going to remember that she wanted it some other way.

I don’t want that to happen to me. I know that it still could. Things may not go to plan, and you can never account for what’s going to happen in the future. But at least by doing it my way, and keeping it on the down-low, I am in control of what I want for as long as possible.